These Are Not Tricks, Clever Pick Up Lines, Or Gimmicks

The techniques and advice in this course are not tricks, gimmicks, or deceptions. If you treat them as tricks or gimmicks, they won’t work reliably. That’s because most women will only find a man attractive if they think they can trust him, and they won’t trust someone who is insincere. 

Fortunately the lessons in this course are easy to carry out with sincerity. There is, however, an impediment to being sincere that you must be aware of. If you are not aware of this impediment, it might block your sincerity without you even realizing your insincerity! That impediment is your fear of rejection. Courting a woman exposes a man to being rejected by that woman. The man’s fear of rejection can be higher if he makes himself vulnerable by speaking to her only with sincerity, because speaking sincerely risks showing things about you that she might not find attractive. This fear of being rejected when revealing one's true, sincere self is, I suspect, why some men use pick up lines and gimmicks to try to attract women. 

If you follow the advice in this course you do not have to worry about being rejected by the woman during the courting phase because of what you believe to be your unattractive qualities. You don’t need to worry about whether you’re handsome or ugly, rich or poor, smart or stupid, healthy or sickly, confident or insecure. That’s because at this initial phase – the courting phase – the woman is usually not interested in looking under the hood; you haven’t yet given her reason to. Most people don’t become interested in finding the real price or drawbacks of a new car, for example, unless and until they’ve had feelings of initial attraction to the car. The same thing applies here. She doesn’t know you well enough yet to care whether you’ve got unappealing qualities. And she won’t care to find out whether you’ve got unappealing qualities unless and until she first finds you attractive. 

This course shows you how to put your best foot forward. It includes not hiding behind insincerity, and instead demonstrating the qualities women find attractive, so that she's interested in you even if at the same time you are showing her you aren't perfect. That you are willing to show her more than a slick surface actually makes you more attractive, not less attractive. Combining your honesty with the techniques and advice taught in this course encourages her to not be turned off just because you have some faults. It’s your chance to get a leg up – to let her know that whatever faults you may have, you also have a range of positive qualities, that include the key qualities of sincerity and trustworthiness. If you hide behind insincere engagement with her, you’ll blow this chance.

Also, as explained in greater detail elsewhere in this book, your own assumptions about why you are unattractive to women are probably wrong. Think of all the odd looking and quirky men who have been loved and adored by a quality woman: Howard Stern (even before he was wealthy or famous), Mick Jagger and Rupert Murdoch, to name a few. I’m sure you know other examples of non celebrities in your own life. Indeed, for all you know that very thing about you that you think makes you least attractive is what she finds most attractive. As just one possible example, maybe she likes guys being overweight because her father was overweight.

Does this mean you won't at some point be rejected by her? Of course not. All I'm saying is that it's counterproductive for you to allow your fear of rejection to block you from approaching her, and approaching her only with sincerity.

For more on this subject, see the Overcoming Nervousness/Fear lesson in this course.

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